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Disappointed
Guy
Jen
wrote, "Okay, here's the skinny: This guy writes me from my
ad, I remind him that I'm just looking for friends, but if
that's cool with him, let's chat. So we chat over two emails,
and then I get this one below. The funny thing is that this
guy is all pissy because I didn't write him back immediately.
How do we tell these people we have lives??? we have websites
to run? friends to see? stuff to DO on the weekend? The last
letter he wrote was dated 5:33pm on Friday night. He sent
it to my work email, and I didn't get it until Monday morning.
Just at 2:04pm on Monday, he writes this lovely piece see
below. People need to RELAX! Definitely include some advice
on your site about 'how long you should wait before you freak
out over someone not writing.' And even then... have some
class... these people sound SO desperate for friends."
So I checked out your website.
then i looked at your ad again. jewish and taken, I missed
those lines. well, thanks for initially writing.
Jen:
He missed that I'm taken...okay...but he missed that I'm
Jewish...does that have anything to do with anything? Unless
you don't like Jewish people of course...but why write back
then??
Hello,
Jen:
just NOW he's saying hello?
If this is not the case, please
accept my appologies in advance.
Jen:
Accept your apologies for me being taken? Or being Jewish?
Why is he sad I'm Jewish? ::laughs::
I have not heard from you.
This makes me feel a little sad.
You seemed caring and interesting.
I would guess that you do not like my picture and do not care
to communicate further with me.
I am not judging you. However,
I am pretty pissed...
Jen:
Gentle guy up to this point... or so I thought...
Lorina:
No...
he's not judging you at aaaallll...
...as I have e-mailed a number
of women and most dont even to bother to write back after
we communicate, start a interesting conversation and then
I send a pic.
It is pretty disgusting that
people can say they like you and your words and that they
are non-judgemental and then you give them a picture and you
never hear one word from them again.
Oh well it's sad that in this
world people will judge you and disrespect you for no good
reason whatsoever.
Lorina:
Oh,
you mean like when they don't answer your email in 2.3 seconds?!
Therefore, thanks for the
initial conversation. If this is the case, please throwout
my picture since you will not need it anymore.
If you have not checked your
e-mail or have not received my picture. Then let me know if
you are interested in talking with me--someone who is caring,
and respectful.
Lorina:
Caring
and respectful?! When?! When he didn't read the ad in the
first place?! When he basically admitted he wouldn't have
written if he had noticed you were Jewish?! Or when he said
you were mean and disgusting for not writing him back as
soon as you got his e-mail?!
Best regards,
Cliff
Jen's
Wrote To Cliff:
Okay, Cliff...you need to chill. ;-)
You
just wrote to me on Friday at 5:33pm...it's only Monday, and
not everyone can respond back immediately to your response.
I
liked what you wrote on Friday...you sound nice...I didn't
get the pic, but that's okay...no biggie. I'm just looking
for friends, so you could have two heads, a third arm, and
tentacles on your forehead. So long as you're a nice friend
with your head on straight, it makes no difference to me.
What
I find really insulting is when people immediately jump to
conclusions. If you wrote me a week ago a nice long letter
& I didn't respond...you might think, Hmm, maybe something's
going on in her life...not immediately jump to the conclusion
that I must not like you as a person and I must think you're
hideous to look at. Have some self-esteem, dude! :-) You're
great, and I think you're cool...totally let's be friends.
I've
had a lot going on this weekend. My stepmom who's been in
a coma for 6 weeks back East just came out of it, and I spent
a lot of time talking to my family about her condition...my
dad's having a tough time of it. And my best friend and I
hung out for a bit because he's moving to Hawaii this week,
so I'm a little sad about that.
Cliff,
I hope you see where I'm coming from with all this, and I
certainly wouldn't want to disappoint you, but I'm a really
busy person, and though I like having friends, I can't promise
to reply immediately. Just want to set things straight with
you...you seem like a good guy, someone I'd like to get to
know better, but if you're going to get upset with me every
time I spend 2.5 days to write back, that would not be a good
thing.
Do
you think we can still be friends?
Jen
:-)
Lorina:
Jen, you were MORE than reasonable! I had a guy like that...
Cesar. He wrote a basically insulting initial e-mail to me,
I defused it with my modesty and charm (lol), we wrote a few
times, but when I didn't write him back over a weekend (I
think it was labor day weekend), he FLIPPED OUT! Beavis Christ...
it's not a ping pong match. You and I are best friends, and
yet do we get all hysterical if we don't e-mail every day?!
There seems to be a lot of total social recluses online. Ones
without any friends, and once you get to know them, you understand
why!
I'm sure there's
plenty of them offline too, but since they're social recluses,
you don't see much of them offline. ;)
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